Our First Adoption update from Kirsh and Kirsh

Today we received our first update from the law firm that we are doing our private adoption through. The letter said that they sent out our letter to 1 birth mother this past month on June 21^st. This was a “surprise baby” situation, in which the birth mother delivered at the hospital, without having made an adoption plan. She ended up choosing another family to adopt her baby because of the similarities and things they had in common. When I first read this, I was worried about how Jennifer would react to this. I was of course disappointed that they didn’t chose us, but when I spoke to Jennifer, she said.. there were some other great things in the letter. Those were the statistics which I totally didn’t read all the way. Here is what it said.

Statistics

60 adoptions to date

7 Caucasian adoptions last month

4 birth moms changed their mind last month

11 birth mothers were met last month: 6 being Caucasian infants

Kirsh and Kirsh Directed Statistics

Total on Direct Approach: 90

Current Position: 78

Couples matched ahead: 53

Couples waiting ahead: 24

Jennifer pointed out to me that they are moving along and that we have moved up the list 6 people since we signed on with them.. Plus the fact that 53 couples ahead of us have already been matched and only 24 couples ahead of us are waiting. She told me that it was disappointing that the birth mother didn’t pick us, but she’s trying to accept that it wasn’t God’s Plan. That totally hit me like a ton of bricks. I am so proud of her. I definitely need to keep that train of thought towards this whole process. I’ve been saying it, but until today I guess wasn’t really living it based on my reaction to the letter and not seeing the good in it.

I would like to thank my wife for being the example and seeing the positive in things. 24 ahead of us is great… plus the story of them having a birthmother coming to them at the hospital on Sunday and paired her up with an adoptive parent right away shows that we may not have any notice at all. As I’ve said before and now need to learn to live by it… It’s all in God’s Timing.

God Bless,

Clint