Projects, planning and preparation...

As you can see from Clint's blog post, this has been an exciting week at the Brown house. Beyond getting information from the attorney, Clint has been hard at work on projects around the house.

First we hired Nick to do the landscape in the front of the house, which I am EXTREMELY excited about. Nick and his crew spent a few days cleaning out the overgrown flowers beds, adding rock and making everything beautiful around the house.

Then, he and his fantastic friends started on our shed. The project has taken a little longer than he anticipated, but I am so proud of him and all the hard work he has put into building the shed. He has learned a lot over the past week about construction, and already has his mind set on his next project - our deck. Here are a few pictures as the shed has progressed.

Before

After

With the exciting news we received from the attorney's office, we started to question whether we should in fact start preparing around the house for our baby. Should we be decorating the nursery? Is it time to buy furniture? Where do we go from here?

As much as we would love to start doing all of these things, we need to take a step back and accept that the adoption is on God's time. While the letter from the attorney provided a glimmer of hope that we may come home with a baby sooner rather than later, it does not mean we need to jump the gun on everything else. We started this process with the intent to hold off on setting up a part of our home for the baby. We decided to let things take its course, and adjust when the time comes. We can buy what we need at a moments notice. We can decorate a nursery once the baby is here.

Rather than planning for what is to come, we need to prepare ourselves. We need to continue to grow in our relationship, prepare to be parents and celebrate our future together.

God has a plan for us, and we need to be open to whatever lies ahead. For now, we will focus on the many projects around the house, gatherings with friends and family and moments together before our family expands.

Have I mentioned that I love my husband? I most certainly do.

Our First Adoption update from Kirsh and Kirsh

Today we received our first update from the law firm that we are doing our private adoption through. The letter said that they sent out our letter to 1 birth mother this past month on June 21^st. This was a “surprise baby” situation, in which the birth mother delivered at the hospital, without having made an adoption plan. She ended up choosing another family to adopt her baby because of the similarities and things they had in common. When I first read this, I was worried about how Jennifer would react to this. I was of course disappointed that they didn’t chose us, but when I spoke to Jennifer, she said.. there were some other great things in the letter. Those were the statistics which I totally didn’t read all the way. Here is what it said.

Statistics

60 adoptions to date

7 Caucasian adoptions last month

4 birth moms changed their mind last month

11 birth mothers were met last month: 6 being Caucasian infants

Kirsh and Kirsh Directed Statistics

Total on Direct Approach: 90

Current Position: 78

Couples matched ahead: 53

Couples waiting ahead: 24

Jennifer pointed out to me that they are moving along and that we have moved up the list 6 people since we signed on with them.. Plus the fact that 53 couples ahead of us have already been matched and only 24 couples ahead of us are waiting. She told me that it was disappointing that the birth mother didn’t pick us, but she’s trying to accept that it wasn’t God’s Plan. That totally hit me like a ton of bricks. I am so proud of her. I definitely need to keep that train of thought towards this whole process. I’ve been saying it, but until today I guess wasn’t really living it based on my reaction to the letter and not seeing the good in it.

I would like to thank my wife for being the example and seeing the positive in things. 24 ahead of us is great… plus the story of them having a birthmother coming to them at the hospital on Sunday and paired her up with an adoptive parent right away shows that we may not have any notice at all. As I’ve said before and now need to learn to live by it… It’s all in God’s Timing.

God Bless,

Clint

God's Timing

Lately I have had so many people around me affected by what the future holds including me. Questions like, "When will we be chosen? When will I work? How will I pay for my mortgage? Who is going to move? What school to go to? When will we get pregnant? How long do I have to wait? Why isn't God answering my prayers?" The Quick and easy answer is that it will happen in "God's timing, not ours." Of course no one wants to hear that. So what does it really mean when someone says "God's timing?" It’s easy to say it.. but is it really easy to live by it?

I once heard Tony Dungy say that “God’s timing is different than ours. Our society is instant and you want it now.. There is nothing wrong with it but many good things that come in life you are going to have to wait for and you are going to have to wait through some disappointments many times to get the real enjoyment and it’s something you wish you could take it from a bottle and say “Ok I got it now” but it comes from experience and many times you have to go through some hard things to develop that. It’s not something you should look down on, it’s something you should enjoy those hurdles that you have to overcome while you are developing that patience”

Patience is definitely hard and yes we do have to go through some hard times to appreciate the good things that God has planned for us. I do think it helps us get stronger, but It is so hard. We need to keep faith that God has everything under control.

If you are in a situation where you are waiting for God’s timing, know that God loves you and knows everything and has the right plan for every one of us, even if we don’t agree with it. I pray that you keep the faith In God’s plan.

Blessings,

Clint

Sometimes we all can use a gentle reminder...

As you have probably guessed from Clint's post, its official! We are finally on the active list with Kirsh & Kirsh, and couldn't be happier. This is the next step towards becoming parents, and now the waiting begins.

Although I am fully aware that God is in charge, we can all use gentle reminders every now and again. Last Friday, I got anxious (and controllish - if that is even a word) and pushed Clint to email K&K to find out what is next, when would our letter be online, etc. It was at that time that we received a gentle reminder that "this whole process is about managing expectations...time to have another glass of Wine." Managing expectations is harder than you could imagine, especially when it comes to something so life changing, but the recommendation of more wine could definitely help!

I take great comfort in the words we received from our friend on Saturday when she heard that we were now active: "God's Providence is guiding you to the little one meant - from the beginning of time - to be your child." What an awe inspiring thought!